Transitioning From an Open to Closed Relationship

This is a guest post by Stefan. Maybe it’s because anniversaries are a time for reflection, or maybe it’s because in the summer I’m often out jogging or on my bike and just thinking too much, but lately I’ve been pondering my relationship and its future.

HELP! I’m in Love with My Straight Friend.

I have a crush on a straight friend right now. The more we get closer, the more I want him. It’s painful, it’s hell. – reader Erick Coming out to friends is hard. Falling in love with one of them knowing they’ll never love you in return is downright heartbreaking. And it’s a problem many LGBT

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3 Reasons Why Gay Men are Afraid of Gay Sex

One of my subscribers sent me a message today that said this: My thing is that I’m really afraid of gay sex.  I don’t know what it is, but I have all these ideas about how it is “supposed” to be. It’s so frustrating to not have any clear images about what it’s supposed to be

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Can Gay Men Really Be “Just Friends”?

Remember that scene in When Harry Met Sally where Harry explains why men and women can’t be friends? “The sex part always gets in the way,” he says. Then I thought maybe this rule applied to gay men as well – a demographic known for being sex-crazed and superficial.