Category Archives: Sex

Is “Hooking Up” the Only Way to Find a Boyfriend?

Q: I know a lot of gay guys like to hook up and only want one-night-stands. Since I’m not into that, it seems unlikely I’ll ever find a boyfriend. I even asked a gay friend of mine how he met his boyfriend. His response: “We hooked up.” I’m pretty old-fashioned when it comes to dating, and I don’t want to sacrifice my values, but now I’m wondering: Is hooking up the only way I’ll ever find a boyfriend?

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Transitioning From an Open to Closed Relationship

This is a guest post by Stefan.

Maybe it’s because anniversaries are a time for reflection, or maybe it’s because in the summer I’m often out jogging or on my bike and just thinking too much, but lately I’ve been pondering my relationship and its future.

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Do Gay Men Find Themselves Sexually Attractive? (NSFW)

“I’d do me.”

I guess my little blog here has gotten a boost in Google rankings ’cause I’m picking up more traffic through search engine queries. Some of these searches are pretty general – “gay blog” or “gay relationships” – but others are quite specific, and I thought they deserved to be addressed in a weekly post.

So without further ado, may I present to you Week 1 of Very Specific Google Questions:

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3 Reasons Why Gay Men are Afraid of Gay Sex

One of my subscribers sent me a message today that said this:

My thing is that I’m really afraid of gay sex.  I don’t know what it is, but I have all these ideas about how it is “supposed” to be. It’s so frustrating to not have any clear images about what it’s supposed to be like to be gay.

Now, if you’ve been out of the closet for a while, your first reaction might be, “WTF, sex is awesome!”

But for those of you recently out, the idea of having sex as a gay person can be downright terrifying and – dare I say – disgusting?

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Can Gay Men Really Be “Just Friends”?

Remember that scene in When Harry Met Sally where Harry explains why men and women can’t be friends?

“The sex part always gets in the way,” he says.

Then I thought maybe this rule applied to gay men as well – a demographic known for being sex-crazed and superficial.

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